Why do Relationships fail?

Why do relationships fail?

In this technological era, where meeting and connecting to new people or the same old people is just a click away and where talking to a person  who is miles away from you is so convenient. The digitization coupled with mobility have shrunken the distance to a great extent; strangely successful relationships are hard to find.

While, this century can rightly be termed as "The Digital Era", why are the humans failing to nurture their relationships.

The merit of digital world seems to have played down upon the emotional warmth between two people. Why? Perhaps, the saying too much of anything is bad. This can be one of the many reasons behind failures.

To our surprise, our grandparents who used to choose their life partners without even seeing each other, can have a successful marriage and also have built generations on it. Then why is today's youth who gets the liberty to see, even virtually talk to each other, know each other still runs to failure. There are many reasons that come to my mind for these changing circumstances. Firstly, our grandparents valued their parents immensely and they believed in the ideology of not going against them. But in today's times this trend can just be considered as an orthodox mentality. Then came the generation of out parents who did not follow their parents blindly, but they chose their life partners as per their choices. Many people chose love marriages and many chose an arranged marriages still they had a successful marriages. Why? Because they were certain about the feelings they had for their life partners. They understood the mere fact that life is not  a bed of roses. And with the changing times, situations change but not the feeling of togetherness or the vows of marriage they took. They can actually be called pioneers of the term "Happily Ever After."

Sadly, today's generation Y is too forward and practical. For them, parental advice doesn't count, because for them Internet is that tool from where they can get information and solutions to anything and everything. But sadly they fail on the terminologies such as compromise, faith, patience and togetherness. If it can fit well to you, it's yours. But being in a relationship with a person is not like changing clothes! For any relation to sustain, you need to adjust. The sense of compromising something for someone you love is missing because practical mindset heaves upon the emotional quotient. People have competitions on how many girlfriends or boyfriends they have had. But none of them, comes and says like," Its been 5 years  and I have been dating this fellow, and still every day I find a new person in him/ her." The basic ability to have faith in another person is missing.

Also, to stop dealing with divorces and more legal proceedings, this generation have even adapted methods like live-in relationships. I am not trying to say that live-ins are wrong but they are wrong as an option to escape from divorces. You meet a person, you like him, you aren't sure how will you manage with him your entire life, and hence you live-in with that person. But, if your emotions are true, and if you have kept your trust in the right person, it is always going to end up in a marriage. For us, Live-ins are the shortcut to Marriage, responsibility and care still sufficing the basic needs of sex and fun. Marriages are a sense of togetherness. A partner who is life long there to stand by and believe  in you and to get the best out of you. 

       Life comes with a purpose and to achieve that one must adhere to these basics. And if every person out there starts living it in that way with an aid of technology, nourishing and valuing relationships. This world can surely be a better place. Afterall who likes breaking up?!